Respect: A Disclaimer
I’m going to be talking very frankly about sex on this blog.
This is a basic disclaimer on respect and sex.
When I am talking about not beating yourself up when something you do or say triggers your partner, I’m talking about when you are treating them respectfully.
That means having consent, stopping when they ask you to, and not shaming them for wanting/needing to stop.
If you treat them disrespectfully - when you force them into doing something they don’t want to do, when you do something without their consent - you need to step the fuck back and do a head check.
Give them some space.
Do not try to justify what you have done.
Please do not contact that person except to apologize once - and then respect their boundaries, whatever they may be, however harsh you may consider them to be.