May 2013
8 posts
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"Yes" doesn't always mean "yes" when you haven't...
ladysourpuss:
veeisagenderneutralname:
I feel like this should be obvious. But every time I see someone say “yes means yes; no means no” I cringe a little. Consent isn’t always that simple.
exactly
Some really cool words on the grey areas of consent.
Watching Her Become Him →
As he was shopping for his new attire, the first time he put on men’s jeans and a t-shirt, he cried in the dressing room because of how attractive he felt. I told him that that was his truth, relea…
The pronouns are a little shaky at first, and the picture is just kind of weird (wearing menswear doesn’t automatically mean you’re trans*…) but overall the article has a...
“But I have seen the best of you and the worst of you, and I choose both.”
– Sarah Kay and Phil Kaye, “An Origin Story” (via loveyourchaos)
A bit of advice please...
tilily91:
I have been recently hanging out with a new friend. He is FtM, which doesn’t bother me but he kissed me last night. I’m not quite sure how to take it. I have a crush on him but I’m not quite sure how I feel about that either. I things progress, I have no idea where I stand. Any advice or just someone I can possibly talk to?
Always down to talk about this stuff, message me if you want...
Why I Praise People Who Tell Me They Aren't Ready...
fuckyeahsexpositivity:
I realized that I did this twice in the same day, and I do it a lot, actually, so I kind of figured that I’d explain why I do this.
When I praise someone who says, “I haven’t had sex [as in PiV intercourse] because I’m not ready,” I’m not saying that:
you have to know what you want sexually
you have to know what you’re ready for
you’re a better person if you haven’t...
Hormones: A Guide for FTMs (via VCH) →
atypical-dino:
Awesome guide put out by Vancouver Coastal Health about the ins and outs of hormone replacement therapy for FTMs.
While there are some health risks involved with hormone therapy, it can have positive and important effects on trans people’s quality of life. Knowing what you can expect will help you work with your health care providers to maximize the benefits and minimize the...
Hey new followers! Thanks for joining up, we’re excited to have you here!
I’d recommend starting here: http://allthevalidation.tumblr.com/starthere Or checking out some of the articles at the very beginning of the blog’s existence.
xo Roxie
P.S: The inbox is open, anytime!
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ALL THE VALIDATION: The Road to T: Part 2 - The... →
ravefromthegrave:
allthevalidation:
The first month you will both think everything and nothing is different. It’s going to be a little hilarious, because you will have both little to no perspective because you are both just SO ECSTATIC that something transition-wise is advancing.
He got a LOT more hungry a LOT more often. Slept a…
i, uh.. just wanted to say that it’s a little uncool to...
April 2013
12 posts
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Umm... so sexy times with a transboy. Howwwww and...
queersexed:
Anon writes:
So I’m a hetero cis woman crushing on a transman, and I’m not sure what the risks of us having sexy times are… or how to do it… you know? I mean, I’m into it, and I want him to be into it to (obvs) but like, how can I make sure we’re safe and have a good time if Idk what I’m doing, amirite? I’d like to talk about it with him, but I also don’t want to be an asshole… I...
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List of FTM Documentaries
drakensberg:
A Boy Named Sue (2000) – IMDB “Theo is a female-to-male transsexual. This film follows his six-year process of becoming a man. Among those affected by his change is his girl friend Lisi who has to deal with what this change means to her.”
Becoming Chaz (2011) – IMDB “A documentary following Chaz (formerly Chastity) Bono’s gender transition. Includes interviews with family members...
How to be a safe space for trans* people →
s-t-r-a-p:
Never assume someone’s pronouns: Use neutral terms until you are told, or are able to ask for, someone’s pronouns. This applies to everyone — not just people you suspect are transgender or whose gender you are unsure of based on voice or appearance. You should be unsure of everyone’s pronouns until you know what to use, because not everyone can present as they’d like, or feels it...
How to Apply for a Surgery Grant
genderwarriors:
The Jim Collins Foundation raises money to fund gender-confirming surgeries for those transgender people who need surgery to live a healthy life, but have no ability to pay for it themselves.
The Jim Collins Foundation will be accepting applications from April 1st – August 1st, 2p3.
For more information and selection criteria, visit their website.
Check this out! Could be...
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The Road to T: Part 2 - The First Month
The first month you will both think everything and nothing is different. It’s going to be a little hilarious, because you will have both little to no perspective because you are both just SO ECSTATIC that something transition-wise is advancing.
He got a LOT more hungry a LOT more often. Slept a little better. Voice got a little lower, he was a little more muscular, and got a little hairier...
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“I want you to know that it is not always easy to love me. That sometimes my...”
– Ivan E. Coyote (via nepantlera-en-la-frontera)
A really neat excerpt from Ivan E. Coyote’s piece “Hats off to Beautiful Femmes”. The whole thing is worth reading, but this part is particularly heart-warming/wrenching.
: 10 Awesome People (Who Happen to be... →
artoftransliness:
Recently an article has been circulating tumblr and the internet entitled “10 Handsome Men (Who Were Born Female).” While seeing a list of accomplished and successful trans* men is important, this list focuses heavily on the bodies of the individuals they list, as well as…
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321 Followers!
Oh my gosh, this is so exciting! A) I’m a numbers nerd, and 3-2-1 is just gorgeous, and B) it is so heart-warming to know there are so many of us partners and people out there.
I hope you are all having a wonderful end of the week!
xo Roxie
Thoughts? Questions? Input?
Tip for practicing unfamiliar pronouns →
disgustinghuman:
eldritchpixie:
Take a song that uses a lot of personal pronouns (my go-to is Avril Lavigne’s Sk8r Boi). Talk or sing through the song, replacing the pre-existing pronouns with the ones you want to practice (“Ey was a boy, xe was a girl”). If you mess up, you’re misgendering fictional people, and you get to practice all the different conjugations in pre-existing sentences, so...
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The Road to T: Part 1 - Getting There
This is not a post about the process for getting on T (testosterone). I’d love to write one, but mostly I’m still so close to that process that it bums me out sitting down to plot out how long and twisty and over-complicated it was (it was a unique situation). This is a post about how to keep your relationship happy and healthy and functional while you GET to T.
1. Sometimes you...
March 2013
18 posts
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Ways to help ease your boyfriend's dysphoria
tofu-girl:
As long as he’s trapped in a body that doesn’t correspond with his mind, dysphoria isn’t something you can eliminate completely. But there are things you could do that might be able to help ease it:
Distract him Whether it be with a movie, food, mario kart, or hide and seek, distracting him would help take his mind off things and prevent him from being sucked further into the black...
she-hulk-smash:
Remember to be kind to yourself today!
Listen to your body and give it what it needs. Take a little time out to do something that makes you happy - no matter how small that something is - and remind yourself how wonderful it is to be alive. Stretch something (seriously). Take a few long, slow, deep breaths. Hug someone (if that’s your thing). Tell someone you love how much you...
“Those of us fortunate enough to be born in a body that suits our felt gender...”
– On Feminism, Transphobia, and Free Speech (via nathanjurgenson)
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thesexuneducated:
Transgender Rights Bill Passes With Help Of 18 Conservatives
transqueery:
OTTAWA - A bill that would make it illegal to discriminate against transgender Canadians was approved by the House of Commons on Wednesday.
The Opposition private member’s legislation passed by a vote of 149-137, with the crucial support of 18 Conservatives, including four cabinet ministers.
It was...
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Getting With Girls Like Us: A Radical Guide to... →
Really cool article from Autostraddle on being a respectful cis woman dating a trans* woman. The general concepts are worth checking out a partner to any trans* person (as a cis person) but also, I’m stoked to see more resources for partners of trans* women!
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Welcome, New Followers! Also: 5 Months on T!
Thanks to Art of Transliness for the reblog! It’s wicked to see so many of you clicking the “follow” button. I hope you’re all having lovely March 2013s! Tomorrow is Boyfriend’s fifth month on T and HOLY CRAP. I’m going to do a changes post ASAP, but one thing I just had to share was that he did a video of clips over the five months and man! His voice has...
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All The Validation's Top 10 Posts of 2012 →
allthevalidation:
Here they are! The top ten (as determined by notes) original posts on All The Validation during 2012.
1. “Recognizing the Relationship Bubble” Sometimes a relationship can take up a lot of our time - and that’s alright if you enjoy it, but if not, it’s okay to take some space for yourself on…
I’ve noticed some new followers - welcome! I’m so glad you found...
Tumblrs We Should Know?
interestsofatransman:
knowhomo:
We are always interested in connecting with more allies and members of the LGBTQ* family and community.
Tumblr is a great source for that.
Who would you recommend?
check out my blog!
We’re a blog for partners of transmasculine folks. Come check us out sometime!
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It's okay to let go of who you thought you were if...
Phalloplasty Interview
theotheropinion:
I thought you might like this.
“FTM Info interviews a guy who’s undergone top surgery, a hysterectomy and a phalloplasty. He tells us all about how his time at the hospital was, how his phalloplasty went, how he recovered and the results.”
http://ftminfo.org/medical/interview-journey-to-phalloplasty/
Thanks, I had not seen this yet. This was interesting to read, and I like...
BREAKING: Obama signs LGBT-inclusive domestic... →
midwestgenderqueer:
woooooooooooot!
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interestsofatransman:
Art of Transliness: How to Pick your Prosthetic (links NSFW)
artoftransliness:
As mentioned before in Pros and Cons of Strap-On Sex for Transguys, not all guys feel comfortable using prosthetics during sex. However, for those who do, here’s a short guide on how to pick out the right one for you:
1. If you can, shop in person. This gives you the chance to actually see...
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Different Kinds of Testosterone
drakensberg:
Testosterone injections
Injections are usually done every two weeks with a dose of 200 to 250 mg but it’s different for everyone. The smaller doses are usually Depo-Testosterone and Sustanon, the large dose injected every three months is Nebido. Many trans men experience mood swings when it’s nearly time for their injection because their testosterone levels are lowering. Missing...
February 2013
13 posts
“The parents of a 6-year-old transgender girl who has been banned from using the...”
– This kid has amazing parents that are not only supporting their kids, but also creating conversations and hopefully changing policies that will benefit other kids too!
Transgender Girl’s Parents Lobby for Her Right to Use the Bathroom | Parenting - Yahoo! Shine (via ryansallans)
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fuckyeahimboring replied to your post: Outside World: Invasive Questions
This is the main reason why my boyfriend and I are keeping on the down-low…he wants to protect me from these questions and assumptions. I wish people would just mind their own businesses.
your-deer replied to your post: Outside World: Invasive Questions
Thanks for this. Thankfully I haven’t experienced a great deal of...
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Outside World: Invasive Questions
*This includes some of my personal experiences as a hetero lady dating a transman. Your experiences may differ. Sometimes, when people in my life find out I’m dating a trans*man, it’s like watching a light bulb go off over their heads - you know the ones I’m talking about.
“So… are you…. gay now?”
“So how does ….that…. work…....
Seeking Submissions →
transclothesexchange:
It’s that time of year where the weather is getting colder, the weather harsher, and I’m sure there are some in need of winter clothing. So submit your old hoodies, jackets, snowpants, jeans, boots, whatever! As long as they’re in decent condition. This is a chance for…
Something cool your partner might be into!
xo Roxie
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Boyfriend is currently coming up on 5 months of T! So many changes - definitely going to do a post on the changes, especially since they are getting more obvious the further we go.
Hoping everything is going excellent for all of you lovely people,
xo Roxie
Thoughts? Input? Questions? Are there any articles you would like to see or questions you would like answered? Hit me up - the inbox is...
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Lovers Who TRANScend: Resources: →
loverswhotranscend:
I am one of those people who adores doing her research, I am constantly looking up things to learn about new treatments or ways to do certain things. And this is EVERY aspect of my life, I hate not knowing things so I overstock myself with information.
This relationship is my first relationship…
Some interesting books on trans* issues listed! (I have only read one...
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31 Ways To Know You're In The Right Relationship →
Really neat article from The Huffington Post! No matter how awesome you tell yourself and others your relationship is, check-ins are vital. (Number 11, in particular, is really nicely put.) I hope you are all happy, healthy, and appreciated.
xo Roxie
Thoughts? Questions? Input?
