This blog exists because as the trans* community becomes more visible and active, the accompanying trans* partner community follows. The thing is, you can throw a stone and hit a trans* blog on Tumblr - but it’s a little more difficult finding blogs for trans* partners.
I have been very careful online to preserve my privacy and to protect my own personal life from the possibilities of judgment, invasive questions, even the danger that can plague those within the queer community.
But sometimes the hard things need to be said.
I’ve been thinking for a long time now about how to talk about the hard things. I feel an odd obligation to - and while I almost wish I didn’t feel this obligation, the simple fact of the matter is that there are very few resources for (cis) partners of trans*masculine individuals. I just want to make things a little easier for other partners or prospective partners. I want to make things a little more clear for people who are thinking of becoming involved romantically or sexually with someone who happens to be trans*.
I want to do this because of the (almost) total radio silence I encountered when I began to look into becoming the partner of a transman.
When I first started poking around on the Internet, things were about as clear as mud. (I’m not going to lie, sometimes they still are.) There is a fairly clear and established community for trans* individuals, but there is also a distinct lack of a community for their partners and families - specifically for their romantic and sexual partners, especially if they are not spouses but just casually dating or just boyfriend/girlfriend.
I wanted to join the few other blogs out there geared towards the trans*individual’s partner, because I think that for any relationship to thrive, it needs to be supported - by the individuals within the relationship and also the outside world.
Sometimes it can be a little harder to find support for a relationship where one of the involved individuals is trans*masculine, and I wanted to put my two cents out there in the hopes of supporting someone else as confused as I was in the beginning of my relationship.